Friday, March 19, 2010

Why it Matters to Me

I feel that I am a two-spirit; part man and part woman. I seldom put it out in the open as I am doing now because there will always be someone to take issue with it needlessly. The mix is about 80/20 in favor of the woman and though I identify as female I can't in good conscience pick just simply the F box on important Civil or medical forms. It is not a fully truthful answer (for me) and so I always correct the form and indicate I am a transgender female, for this truly is my gender. I can't change my genetic make up (not, at least, until Revlon comes out with Genetic Makeup - lol) nor can I change the spirit and soul I have been given, and so I strive for truthfulness about myself. I am a female built on a male frame and that is impossible to change; this is the wonderful gift God gave to me and so I celebrate it rather than hide it. In this spirit, the US Census is important enough that I can't take the easy way out and simply mark F.

For the sake of most other questionnaires and surveys (especially on the internet) I simply pick F because it isn't important nor oppressive to the male aspect of my spirit to do so. (Yes - I love deals on womens clothes and cosmetics & etc so marking F is appropriate in those cases). I promised myself when I went full time on July 24th, 2006 that I would never do to the male aspect of my spirit (I.E.: crush it and abuse it) what I had, in ignorance, done all the first years of my life to the female aspect of my spirit.

As usual I was not and am not telling anyone what to do - urging isn't telling - but it is interesting to see once again through the responses how diverse we all are just within the T part of the rainbow. I urge everyone to be true to themselves and follow their own conscience. I also urge anyone that feels like I do about their gender to stand up and be counted in whatever way you can. Be true to yourself; what you are and who you are is a wonderful blessing from your Creator so don't hide it and don't take the easy way out if doing so compromises who you are!

Hugs and Blessings,

I had fainted, unless I had believed to see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. (Psa 27:13)


  1. This was nice. Thank you for sharing. :)

  2. Both are beautiful. Don't ever be anything but true to your heart.


    btw...I am so jealous you can sew! I really want to learn!

  3. Don't be jealous yet - I'm just learning and all I am good at is making a mess so far.


  4. Thank you for sharing. I'm two-spirit myself,havig Native American in my heritage. My tribe (Choctaw) had two-spirit men and women. Perhaps some of my ancestors were too.