Monday, July 23, 2012

LGBTQ Webinars of interest.

Here is a very good collection of LGBTQ educational Webinars - good for caregivers and others that interface with LGBTQ folks. This list was provided by the Riverside County (Calif) Mental Health LGBTQ Task Force


Hugs and Blessings,
Eva-Genevieve!



Recorded Webinars

Putnam, J. & Woodward, M.C. (2011, June 2). LGBTQ 101: Terminology. Recorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p8pqpftlyfh/.

Ferguson, E., Jones, R.D., & Lewis, C. (2011, June 9). LGBTQ 102:Subcultures and groups. Recorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p3kcqlj03oz/ 

Shannon, R. & Wonsowicz, J. (2011, June 16). LGBTQ 103: Allies and role of the providerRecorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p95c6uojwwi/.

Ferguson, E. & Lewis, C. (2011, June 23). LGBTQ 104: Webinar review sessionRecorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p7jk5q1hp9e/.

Penniman, C. (2011, July 14). LGBTQ 201: Substance abuse and stimulant useRecorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p19rg2qfz7y/.

Gilder, P., Hess, R., III, & Sitzler, A. (2011, July 21). LGBTQ 202: Review of recent needs assessment and what they meanRecorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p7b1wfhx1i5/.

Russ, E. (2011, July 28). LGBTQ 203: Behavioral health disparitiesRecorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p5a15dn6476/.

Francis, K. & Poirier, J.M. (2011, August 4). LGBTQ 204: National initiatives and resourcesRecorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p2bovbk6mqa/.

Ferguson, E. & Lewis, C. (2011, August 9). LGBTQ 205: Webinar review session. Recorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p471g52a6d3/.

Adelman, M. & Carr, M. (2011, August 11). LGBTQ 301: SafeZone, signs, and communicationRecorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p4rlkzmvpiq/.

Wagaman, A. (2011, August 25). LGBTQ 302: Ethical competency for the provider. Recorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p459nad51nt/.

Grissom, M., Machuca, E., Mahon, J., & Wagaman, A. (2011, September 1). LGBTQ 303: LGBT homeless youth. Recorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p1atqkmrxal/.

Ferguson, E. & Lewis, C. (2011, September 6). LGBTQ 304: Webinar review session. Recorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p3lf1bjqo51/.

Carr, M. (2011, September 8). LGBTQ 401: LGBT youth in foster care. Recorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p9dhpf3b704/.

Stafford, K. (2011, September 15). LGBTQ 402: LGBT youth in the juvenile justice system. Recorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p4cpmrmtese/.

Loving, T. (2011, September 22). LGBTQ 403: Using best practice models and peer educationRecorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p4cpmrmtese/.

Bellis, C. & Carr, M. (2011, September 29). LGBTQ 404: Youth in the education system. Recorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p329y971npx/.

Hess, R., III, & Trush, R. (2011, October 6). LGBTQ 405: Systems of careRecorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p1ru9qufpvu/

LGBTQ Boomers & Beyond. (2011, October 13). LGBTQ 501: Sustaining LGBTQ specific groups and interactionsRecorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p7pxvkmdngd/

Blumenstein, B. (2011, October 20). LGBTQ 502: Gender Transition Considerations. Recorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p1i9q8hk659/

Ferguson, E. & Lewis, C. (2011, October 27). LGBTQ 504: Webinar review session. Recorded at http://asu.adobeconnect.com/p305e4wwqri/

Friday, July 20, 2012

Snagged these off of Facebook...

I snagged these off of Facebook because they say what I'm feeling.
Hugs and Blessings,
Eva-Genevieve!


Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Thomas the Kitten and My Righteous Anger - A Sermon



I have agonized over the issue of personal culpability for a long time and catalyst this time was Thomas the kitten. How does one live in this tainted world and still live responsibly and a little bit righteously without being overwhelmed? I believe we must each answer this for ourselves in the very way we live. I posted this earlier today on Facebook though I have edited it slightly here. Even though it really isn't a transgender issue it is one all about how we live in the world - hopefully responsibly. I was truly horrified when I read the original post and have stewed over this for a week now so this post is a bit of a rant, mixed with what I believe to be righteous anger  and outrage turned into a sermon mixed with a little practical advice. I think it worthwhile to read on...

Hi all,

You know I post a lot of petition links - at least if you follow me on Facebook you do . I do this not to annoy my friends but to inform you and hopefully get you engaged enough to take two minutes from your day to make a difference in your world. I know you get junk mail already and don't want to add a bit more, but ignoring these issues does increase ones culpability and staying spam-free just doesn't seem to me like a viable excuse, (You can set up a separate e-mail account to use just for signing petitions and then you won't get all the junk mixed with your regular mail). Sometimes I get angry enough to stand up on my soap-box and preach. It took seeing a kitten buried alive in concrete to do so and this is one of those times...

I have been thinking a lot since I saw the original and re-posted the link on Facebook that though we would never do something this heinous to a kitten ourselves we do participate in behavior that allows such tortures to go unchecked by others. We have a moral responsibility to pay attention and be engaged in our world. And that means doing something to make a difference sometime. If each person on Facebook signs one petition every day can you imagine the difference that would make?

For Example, do you like bacon? Well then you have culpability in the cruel treatment of pigs unless you take some time to be involved in the fight against inhumane conditions and treatment. The same goes for those who eat chicken or beef or any other animal. It is time to quit remaining safely blind and ignorant and comfortable behind the walls we build for ourselves. I'm not going as far as the Vegans do in this battle because I believe that we are designed to eat some meat but I also am not going to hide or shield myself from the responsibility I personally have to be sure I seek humane sources of food, and barring that at least getting involved in a campaign to change cruel conditions and actions.

Humans tend towards cruelty - we see this time and again in the news - especially when it comes to getting and maintaining personal wealth and power over others. It is a rare person indeed who manages to accomplish this without allowing cruelty in the process and to those few that do I say thanks - keep it up! To the rest of us I must point out that God (or our Creator or the Universe in general for those who don't claim any brand of religion) gave us the intellect and free will to be able to rise above our base desires and instincts and we CAN make a difference. It is this intelligent difference-making that makes us fully human. And being fully human means taking responsibility for the things we use and what we do – every little thing. We will be blessed if and when we try to live this way. We may not succeed in bringing positive changes with every effort, nor can one person be involved in every issue, but we CAN try to make a difference somewhere and that is the crux of the matter. We must try! These petitions are a very simple and quick way to make a difference.  (I try not to post junk or foolhardy things that would waste your time).

Involvement means making changes in your life like having to look and think, and at times imagine what it would feel like to be in the place of one of these animals or people or to be forced to live in slavery or extreme poverty. Take a long hard look at the pollution and destruction of our world we keep allowing by our non-involvement. We can't keep "kicking the can down the road" - we are responsible to pick up the can and deal with it responsibly. I understand there are differences of opinion on the form and methods of involvement and I am not choosing political sides here - each person must decide for themselves how to be involved and what is important, however I am urging involvement of some sort.

We must change our society so it isn't built on a foundation of wasteful destruction and pollution, or cruelty, abuse, bullying, prejudice, slavery, sex trafficking and etc: all of this needs to be stopped and it won't be by staying silent and un-involved.  We must keep our corporations and our elected and appointed civic leaders in check. Sometimes it means we must do some real hands on sweaty work, sometimes maybe a bit of electioneering or some other tedious bit of effort, but we at least must do something to hold those responsible accountable and this is why I constantly encourage people to sign these things. I want you to see them and get involved - I even beg you as fellow citizens of this world to do so. We must, as Gandhi said, “be the change we want to see in the world”

For many years I have been inspired by this quote from Edmund Burke: "All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good [people] do nothing." (Originally it said "men" but the feminist in me said change it so readers know it includes everyone). I made a vow many years ago when I heard this that even though I may not be able to do much I would not "do nothing".

Here is what I am asking of each one of you who are my friends, please make a similar vow. Please don't do nothing. Please don't allow yourself to skip over important issues. There are plenty of issues to go around too. We need clean air and water - at least our children do, we need to have a humane society where all people are equal and accepted as members, we need to treat our world and all the creatures in it with kindness and compassion. We must love all our neighbors! It is our responsibility!

Look at the picture and hear this little kitten telling you the same thing. God used Balaam's ass to rebuke him (see Numbers 22:22-35; 2 Peter 2:16) so why not hear a kitten calling to you. Maybe if you hear him crying for help you will begin to hear what God hears--the cries of all the oppressed, the rejected, the downtrodden, the victims, and the hurting residents of our world--and then you can start to love your neighbors as yourself. I know God heard the cries of little Thomas and was grieved. When I saw this I was shocked, horrified and driven to my knees in anger first and then prayer and now moved to preach. Open your ears, eyes and your heart and allow what you hear and see to move provoke you to action. Here is a good starting place: maybe you could jump over to the petition site linked below and sign it too. The kitten was eventually rescued though it was too late to save his life, but still it is time to act and let the world know we won't tolerate this kind of behavior. Not to people, not to pets, not to our food, not to our world. Allow yourself some righteous anger when you see what uncaring. irresponsible and wicked people do and then stand up and get involved!! Don't do nothing. Here's the link to the petition site:


For those of faith here is a verse that comes to mind - isn't it about time...

2 Chronicles 7:14
If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.


Amen!

Hugs and Blessings,
Eva-Genevieve!


Monday, July 2, 2012

Who is Disabled?

Greetings everyone,


In my e-mail today was a post that I thought was very much worth sharing. As I was prepping it as a jpg I was also thinking about prejudice also as a handicap. Both presently as a transgender person and also as one who in my youth was ridiculed for the patch I had to wear over one eye and my inability to participate in certain activities. One might as well be truly struck blind or deaf when they let their prejudices direct their behavior whether it is directed towards people with handicaps or people who are different in other ways like LGBT folks or people from other nations, races or religious backgrounds or any condition beyond one's control. So when you read this please think about the terms of disability or handicap in this broader sense too.
Hugs and Blessings,
Eva-Genevieve!

Sunday, July 1, 2012

Allie the Ally at First Congregational Church, Riverside CA

Allie the Ally was started by the GSA at Blake High School. Today at Church some of us in the LGBT fellowship group posed with Allie to show our support.
We are an Open and Affirming member Church of the United Church of Christ


Saturday, May 19, 2012

The Return Trip

The theme at the Rock ‘n’ Roll Hall of Fame in Cleveland certainly can sum up the theme of my life. What a long, strange trip it has been… and will no doubt continue to be, at least I hope it will so I don’t lose my sense of wonder at it all.
Sorry we couldn’t take pictures in the Hall of Fame but we did take a few shots around the area before we left town.


We left Cleveland Wednesday morning and headed south to Wright-Patterson Air base and the BIG Air and Space museum there – it was so huge I could not walk all the way through it in one pass. This museum is free to the public and should not be missed if you are ever near Dayton, Ohio. 
We spent that night in Cincinnati We Cincinnati, the next night in St Louis, Missouri.
We continued west each day –
– Tulsa, OK. Tucumcari and New Mexico weren’t really remarkable places except for the noisy pimp and hookers at the Tulsa Red Roof Inn (where the management there seemed intent on ignoring that sort of behavior) and the nice dinner at the “Pow Wow” in Tucumcari – until we got to Sedona Arizona where we stayed for one extra day.
Then we decided to sprint for home instead of taking one more night somewhere.
The End

Friday, May 4, 2012

Re-Union Is a Blessing After All

Greetings - tonight from Tulsa, Oklahoma. I am a little behind with this news but with all the travelling there just isn't much time. Again as time permits I will be adding more pictures to this post.

We arrived in Cleveland on schedule and we were able to meet my older son James right away. After a tense, tearful moment of being somewhat overwhelmed James was accepting and we were able to connect and spend some good quality time together. We went into Downtown Cleveland for a great Dinner at the Hyde Park Prime Steakhouse. The service was impeccable, the food - especially the dry aged beef - was too good for words and the ambiance of the place was peaceful, comfortable and had a secluded feel to it - perfect for getting to know my son again. James came with us to the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame the next day 

David was unable to come along because he had to study for his college classes and it turns out that he was hesitant to meet me the new me. This was a very difficult time for me as it came down to our last day in Cleveland and he had been unwilling to meet me. I had to steel myself emotionally for being rejected and only re-uniting with James, but at the last minute he came with us for dinner that last evening at the Great Lakes Brewing Company in Cleveland. They have awesome Pot Roast and amazing Stilton and Cheddar Cheese Soup. And, lest I forget, their beers are really good too so if you see any Great Lakes stuff at Trader Joe's you should pick some up, especially the Porter, the Irish Ale or the Cleveland Brown Ale. 



I really need to thank many friends and members of my Church in Riverside for praying for things to go well. 

Thank You all - your prayers were answered! Praise God!

(Left to Right: Ken, James, Me, David)



While in the area I met with the founder of the TransFamily of Cleveland support group, Karen and her husband Bob over a nice lunch at Ruby Tuesday's. It was nice to learn some of the history of this support group which was so much help to me when I was first explaining to my boys about my transition and wanting to provide some local resources for them should they be interested in learning what I was doing from others on the same path. I wish I had more time to meet with others across the country but we don't really know where we will be until we make plans at night for our next stop. At some point we will be in Sedona, AZ for a couple of days but that's all I know for now.

Now I'm off to bed and an early start on the road again. When I get home I'll get the last installment up so until then may God bless you all richly.

Hugs,
Eva-Genevieve!





Saturday, April 28, 2012

On the Way to Re-Union... I hope

So far this has been an interesting trip. (I'll be adding more pictures to this post as time permits) Pardon me for "burying the lead" but it gives me the opportunity to do the travelog...

My BF and I left California Thursday April19th. We made it to Gallup New Mexico the first day and had a wonderfully delicious dinner at the Badlands Grill. One note about Gallup should you find yourself there - the water tastes really awful and makes nasty coffee because most of it is recycled - bring bottled water to drink and make coffee with.

The next day we made it to Colorado Springs though we stopped in Trinidad Colorado and took an extended rest stop there to poke around the town and have a nice lunch in the historic downtown at The Corner Shop Cafe (107 East Main St. Trinidad Colorado 81082). The town is undergoing some major reconstruction of several very old buildings that are too deteriorated to keep but it remains nice, friendly town worth visiting. It is in a beautiful location with some snow capped peaks. And for the uninitiate Trinidad is a place well known for Gender reassignment surgeries.


Trinidad is the first town in Colorado. Bat Masterson served there as Marshall for a short time.

Saturday we Got to Omaha Nebraska and were so tired we simply crashed. Sunday we got up and went to Church at one of the two Open and Affirming UCC churches in Nebraska - First Central Congregational Church and were very warmly received by everyone we met there including the Pastor and his husband. The church building itself was absolutely gorgeous on the inside too.
Then we went sightseeing to the Strategic Air and Space Museum in Ashland a few miles west of Omaha and got to see (and touch) some of the most awesome planes. I even got to sit in a cockpit trainer for a B52 bomber.
Monday night we arrived in Naperville, Il and we have been spending some time here with my mom, visiting a cousin of mine in Evanston and resting up from lots of driving. Tomorrow we head out for Cleveland OH to see my two sons who I have not seen in 10 years. I have talked on the phone with them and sent pictures so they are somewhat prepared, but the acid test of acceptance will come when they meet the new me Saturday Morning. At this point I hardly know them because I have had so little contact with them ever since they were dragged away from California in Contempt of Court at Christmas of 1997. We had one really good summer -7 weeks together in 2002 but since then we have not seen each other.

I am hoping for a good reunion, the details of which will be coming in a few days or maybe a couple weeks as time and emotion permits me to type at you all.

Hugs and Blessings,
Eva-Genevieve!

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Transgender on Dr. Oz

This is the best, most concise and unbiased show about MtF transition that I have seen to date on television - Thanks Dr. Oz! 


Here's the link to part one of the show:
http://www.doctoroz.com/videos/transgender-families-america-pt-1 (from here you can get to the rest of it).  (Thanks Karin).


The video below is just the trailer.



Hugs and Blessings,
Eva-Genevieve! 

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Things and Stuff

Greetings Friends,


I haven't felt much like saying a lot lately but I am still out here. It has been far too long since I posted a personal update so I'll do that briefly now. My foot surgery a year and a half ago did not heal as well as expected but my recent orchiectomy went very well and I am feeling more like my self image says I should, the extra weight I have gained recently notwithstanding, I feel much happier about myself as my body has become noticeably more feminine since the removal of those little torture devices but I still have a ways to go before I can afford SRS, but even for that I have hope. 


(This Picture was taken at the San Diego Air & Space Museum in 
February when Ken and I had a nice getaway weekend).

I am looking forward to seeing my 2 sons whom I haven't seen in 10 years this April. This will be their first face to face meeting with me as Eva-Genevieve, I am excited and worried in equal measures because I don't know how they will react to me in person. They have seen pictures and we have talked many times since I transitioned but the real test of acceptance or rejection is at hand and I am hoping it will be a great reunion. 

Dealing with back pain from disintegrating disks in my lower back has kept me from being as active as I was a few years ago though I keep plugging away as best as I can - though in an attempt to avoid excessive pain I have not been walking nearly as much as I did a few years ago but today I managed to walk 11 miles. In spite of how feminine I am feeling lately I struggle with depression a bit more these days because of the limits the back pain (and severe headaches from the air pollution in this area) puts on things and this is why I haven't felt like saying too much lately, so rather than me doing the talking here (and on Facebook) I kind of let other people do it when the opportunity comes along. This "It Gets Better" video is another example of something worthwhile that I didn't have to type.


Hugs and Blessings,
Eva-Genevieve!